They say the 5th year of marriage is the toughest. Something about a "5 years itch". Early in my marriage I remember thinking, "Well, since Hafiz and I have been together since Uni time, 5 years of marriage is no big deal". However, as we are half way through our 5th year, I see the reality of the situation. These past 5 years have brought us a lot of life change. New job, a kid, a house loan, car payments, budgeting, meal planning, housekeeping..We are constantly go,go, going-pushing off from each other to get everything done. Some days we don't even kiss each other, let alone speak. It doesn't seem like a big deal at all until I sit back and really reflect on where our relationship is.
Last Saturday we had the rare pleasure of a date night out since Aulia' had a sleepovers at her cousin's. We sat a little not-so-romantic table across from each other for 2.5 hours without moving. No kid and lots of delicious food and good conversation. It seriously feels like it has been ages since we had a good chit chat.. Like sakat each other with the funny jokes and finishes each other drinks.
You see. Marriage isn't easy. Love isn't easy. Sure, it's easy to fall in love quickly, but sustaining it is work. Some days we really have to make a conscious decision to love our spouse. I'm not threatened by the 5 year itch. I'd still choose him all over again. We are slightly different people in an entirely different situation than when we first met. However, underneath it all there is still that deep, unconditional love that drew us together.