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Learn,Play and Being Human

Assalamualaikum wbt..

The manner in which we engage our children determines their core self image ~ My husband. 


I always wanted to teach Aulia' the sound of each letter. I want her to learn colours, how does it look like, how to count numbers and how to write. One thing I've discovered from the very beginning of Aulia' second birthday, I want to enroll her to pre-school next year. 

After being thinking and discussion with the hub for couple of months, I realized that I'm being too rush. Yes, it's true that pre-school nowadays has transformed into Standard One. This mean that my child will need to learn academics, listen and sit still. Boy, I don't want my child being miss-educated to the extent that she'll forgot how to play..  Knowing that she is just a two years old toddler turning to three next year, there is more than this and real teaching to be done in the subject of being HUMAN. 

If I read to her and use descriptive language during the day, I know she'll be getting all of the academics she need for her age. I showed her colors, numbers and we sang the ABC song together.  In fact, she know how to count to ten. But that certainly doesn't mean that these lessons should be straight-jacketed onto her in her toddler years. Funneling down of structured learning is all the more reason to let my child play while she can. 

For my husband, he is less concerned about raising a vessel that holds information and more concerned with raising a functioning human being. He believed that our main 'curriculum' is to help our daughter form basic social skills.  We need to help her navigate relationships. and all of these lessons begin at home and not at school (that's what he think). During these years, Aulia' soak up everything and imitate every single little thing we do. She remember when we asked her permission before picking her up or wiping her nose. She remember how we say thank you to people and offered help to someone. She also remember how we yell at the massive traffic jam. She see our kindness, generosity, love, our anger, selfishness and hatred. Every moment, good and bad, will become imprinted in who she become later in life. This is why my husband could care less about numbers, letters and shapes. He has a far, far bigger task at hand. 

I am obviously not perfect and always striving to be a more understanding mother and wife, a more selfless friend and family member and generally much more aware of my own emotions and boundaries. If I don't actually achieve these things immediately (which I won't), my daughter will see my striving and this is what she will take into her adulthood: the self-awareness and flexibility to work towards becoming a complete and functional human being. 





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